I thrive on rules; I’m a structured black and white kind of gal. I also thrive on breaking rules…the ones I think are ridiculous. But mostly, I like making my own rules…those are the ones that really matter.
I believe that in order to get where we want to go and be the kind of person we want to be, we need to have rules…principles that guide us. Here’s the key though…they need to be our principles…not someone else’s…otherwise they are meaningless.
Over the past few months I have started collecting these principles and writing them down (groundwork for a book I’m working on…still in the early stages.) Then it occurred to me that it would make a great series of posts. I’ll share, you’ll share, and we’ll have a veritable banquet of life principles…
So to kick off our series of discussions…my #1 guiding principle is…
Simple huh! It sounds simple and basic, but you’d be surprised how easy it is to not be ourselves…or maybe you aren’t surprised if you’ve lived long enough to have witnessed a world filled with masks and pretenses and people clinging to a desperate wish to be something they’re not.
It’s not that simple…It can be quite difficult in this modern world. But the alternative is to disrespect the real you, to dishonor your feelings, desires and values. Each time we don’t honor who we really are, we chip away a little piece of our soul, our essence, whatever you choose to call that which resides at the center of who we truly are in this world.
What does Be Yourself Mean?
Not doing things that compromise my values.
Standing up for those things that are important to me.
Doing work I’m good at.
Expressing myself freely.
Being honest…even when it’s hard.
Accepting my faults.
Celebrating my own brand of genius.
It also means…
Owning my age.
Wearing what I want to wear.
Going against the tide.
Laughing at stupid jokes
And crying whenever I want to.
It’s too much work trying to be someone else…that person others want you to be. It’s hard enough just being me. But at least I’m finally getting comfortable in this slightly worn skin.
What is your top guiding principle?