Communication is an integral part of any work or life situation. Learning to be an effective communicator is a valuable productivity tool. It is one that is unfortunately commonly overlooked. The consequences of poor communication can be disastrous; wasted time, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, unproductive meetings, ineffective teamwork and lack of progress towards goals. In order to be successful communicators we need to keep in mind some basic guidelines that are applicable in most instances of work, social or home environments.
Thank you up front:
- Express appreciation for the persons time
- Offer thanks for the work or contribution the person is making
Engage the other person
- Find some common ground – weather, sports, news or whatever is appropriate(avoid controversial topics)
- Inquire about children or projects the person is involved in
Stay positive:
- Find something positive to praise
- Only offer constructive criticism or ideas
Monitor your tone:
- Be assertive, not aggressive
- Stay calm and cooperative
Be clear about your objectives:
- What is your desired outcome?
- Look for win-win solution
Be an active listener:
- Seek to understand the other person’s perspective
- Make eye contact
- Don’t interrupt
- Keep an open mind
Watch non-verbal cues:
- Pay attention to body language
- Notice yawns or sighs
Request feedback:
- Make sure the other person understands what you are saying
- Ask for the other person’s input or thoughts
Determine follow-up:
- Summarize the agreements in oral or written form
- Clarify any actions that will be taken
- Confirm commitments and time-frame if any
Perhaps most importantly, always end with another thank you and a positive note!









