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Get Involved in Your Community

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Did getting more involved in your community make your list of goals or resolutions?

Here’s why it should.

Any form of community involvement can be a wonderful thing in itself. The satisfaction you experience by contributing to your community and the people around you is priceless and many times is the most positive thing you do in your day. Although community involvement by its very nature is altruistic, you will often find that you receive more than you give.

But beyond the personal rewards, being active in your community also provides a tremendous opportunity to network with people who live in your area and the professional connections can help you advance your career or bring in more business. It can also present a fantastic opportunity to make new friends and build your personal support network.

Start participating in neighborhood or community meetings, take part in activities relating to your kids’ school or join a volunteer group or cause that interests you. The choices are endless. Find something that appeals to you and fits into your schedule. Don’t view this as another demand on your time, but as a possibility to enhance your career and your life.

Plus you’ll be setting a great example for your children.

I have over the years been a part of the school PTO and joined a local literacy tutoring group. I found both to be enjoyable, rewarding and very beneficial in adding to my pool of connections.

What type of community involvement have you done or are you planning to di in the future?

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Books Make the Perfect Holiday Gift – My Picks

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Need a gift for that hard-to-buy-for person? Books make great gifts. Thoughtful, affordable and simple. Here are some of my favorite gift picks:

For the tech lover – Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson or The Information: A History, a Theory, a Flood by James Gleick

For the young reader (or the young at heart) – The Hunger Games Trilogy Boxed Set by Suzanne Collins or The Artist Who Painted a Blue Horse a new picture book by Eric Carle

For the suspense lover – The Litigators by John Grisham or Zero Day by David Baldacci

For the history buff – Killing Lincoln: The Shocking Assassination that Changed America Forever by Bill O’Reilly, Jack Kennedy: Elusive Hero by Chris Matthews or Jacqueline Kennedy: Historic Conversations on Life with John F. Kennedy by Caroline Kennedy

For the cook – Paula Deen’s Southern Cooking Bible: The New Classic Guide to Delicious Dishes with More Than 300 Recipes or my personal favorite Better Homes & Gardens New Cookbook

For the fiction lover – 1Q84 by Haruki Murakami or The Marriage Plot: A Novel by Jeffrey Eugenides

Look no further than your local bookstore or get them online.

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Are You Ready for Change?

“It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t. It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.” ―James Gordon

Are you ready to make changes in your life? To move to a  more fulfilling, productive and purposeful type of existence?

Don’t be ashamed to answer no! This may not be the right time in your life. You may not be ready to examine what you have been doing. You may not have a burning desire to accomplish something more than you have so far. You may not feel that it’s important to know where you’re going in life or sort out the meaning and purpose behind your life and work.

That’s OK. Really. Just briefly consider that clinging to your old habits and attitudes may be costing you more than you think. It can be physically and mentally freeing to let it all go and try something different.

Consider a career shift if you don’t feel fulfilled.

Examine your family roles and dynamic.

Analyze your routines and habits – both personal and professional.

Evaluate the health of your relationships.

Assess or re-assess your goals and priorities.

Look at your health patterns.

Move toward a mindset of generosity, kindness, forgiveness and gratitude.

You may find many areas where it’s time for a change. What would you like to do about it? Change is inevitable. Why not make it a considered change rather than a forced one?

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Choose Your Attitude Wisely

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I discovered I always have choices and sometimes it’s a choice of attitude. – Judith M. Knowlton

What attitude have you chosen today? Did you choose to be optimistic, wondering, generous or patient? Or did you choose to show up complaining, frustrated, resentful, angry, critical or bitter? All are valid choices. The wondrous thing about freedom of choice is that we get to choose how we experience our lives. We may not always be able to choose the circumstances, but we can choose the attitude with which we experience them.

The other fabulous thing about freedom of choice is that we can change our mind at any given moment. If your day didn’t start out so well and you don’t like the way you are feeling right this moment, try a different attitude. In this one aspect of your life you always have the power.

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It’s the Simple Acts That Matter

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Sometimes we need a reminder to be grateful for the little things, myself included. We remember to stop and say thank you for babies, raises, recovery from illness, new cars, homes, jobs, vacations, gifts and all those flashy aspects of life. Just for a minute, try to think about the tiny, often overlooked objects or occurrences that comprise the vast majority of our days.

I had an eye opening moment this weekend, just a simple gesture that caused a shift for me. An aha moment of the best kind. I was preparing to assemble my Christmas tree with my children; I opened the box and found a note tucked inside. As I reached for the tiny piece of paper, my heart began to melt and I knew even before I opened it that this would be something significant. On it were written just a few simple words, a private message of comfort, but its impact was for me, enormous. My husband, who as you may know is currently serving in Afghanistan, had written me a note an entire year ago and sealed it in the box before he put it away. The significance of this small gesture was not in the note itself or the words it contained, but in the generous and loving act of his having the forethought and consideration so very long ago to try to ease my sadness at our separation. This was way better than flowers or jewelry any day!

It’s not about gifts and grand experiences. It’s about simple acts of kindness that you receive and can give to others in return. What small act can you do today?

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Say Thank You

If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice. ~Meister Eckhart

Who do you need to say thank you today? Is there a gesture or act that has gone un appreciated?Is there a thank you card that needs to be written – you can send an email if you have to, but I prefer a good old fashioned hand written note! Say thank you to at least 3 people today for their help or kindness.

Today, I am grateful for apple cider, yummy desserts and unexpected time with my children to share and enjoy.

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The Highest Form of Thankfulness

Let us remember that, as much has been given us, much will be expected from us, and that true homage comes from the heart as well as from the lips, and shows itself in deeds. ~Theodore Roosevelt

The highest form of thankfulness comes from helping others, even in simple ways. Do a good deed today. You may not have time to serve in a food program, but you can spare a few minutes to help an elderly neighbor or a single parent. Perhaps you can give a caregiver a much needed break or stop at an extended care facility for a visit. We can all do something that benefits others.

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Charity Focus

Check out CharityFocus.org. It is one of my new favorite websites!

I love this mission statement – CharityFocus is an experiment in the joy of giving. Our services enable inspired people to contribute in meaningful ways to the world around them. Together, we hope to “be the change we wish to see in the world.”


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Defining Moments are the Checkpoints in Life

Do you know what your defining moments are?  We all have them, those marks on the timeline that separate our lives into before and after. If you stop to think about it you probably have many. I certainly do; the moments I got married, the signing of divorce papers, the births of children and without a doubt the death of my father are all forever etched in my memory.  As I look back over the 40+ years of my life, one moment clearly stands out as having had the most life-altering impact and serves as a checkpoint in my existence. On October 13, 1989 @1:28 PM life as I know it vanished, to be replaced by a fresh, uncertain reality. 21 years ago I became a mother. That’s it. A simple declaration, yet more than a label, it was an indescribable alteration of reality.

I think in our society we often give the importance of motherhood lip service, but for me truly, in a single second, the trajectory, focus and purpose of my life shifted. My views on religion, politics and the role of women dramatically changed. My goals and dreams were drastically transformed. The way I viewed life was now child-centered and then world-centered, rather than self-centered. I encountered fears and worries that had never plagued me before. Of course there was love that I was completely unprepared for and a strength and fierceness that I could not have envisioned. In that defining moment I became more; more caring, more determined, more thoughtful, more purposeful. And yes, I correspondingly became more anxious and more fearful at times. I became more of the person I was meant to be. My life is divided into halves; the 21 years before and the 21 years after. The funny thing is when I think back now I can hardly remember life before. My life has become all about life after.

In one lightening flash of an instant my heart cracked wide open and life rushed in…

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How to Stop Doing “Stupid Work”

Occasionally I like to share a post from another blog that I think is relevant and thought-provoking. I just loved the title and the ideas in this recent post by Tammy Strobel at rowdykittens.com. If this describes you at all, then give some thought as to what needs to change.

Orange County Fun“Stupid work” happens when you give into fear, give up creative control, and stop doing work that matters.

Depending on your field of expertise your idea of stupid work might be different from mine. For instance, by the time I was in my mid 20’s I worked at a number of “real jobs,” had a BA and two masters degrees. But I didn’t feel a sense of accomplishment or that my work rocked. A lot of my work was unnecessary, automated, and stupid. Attending three hour meetings, commuting over 2 hours a day, and playing office politics were a few of the many stupid things I engaged in. This type of work left me feeling dissatisfied and pressured to conform to what others wanted my professional life to look like. I also wondered if all my education mattered or if it conditioned me to follow the status-quo.

In many ways I think the motivation for doing stupid work emanates from fear. The fear of being useless, fear of being without money, or the fear of doing something different. By choosing to stop doing stupid work you can make meaningful choices. For example, a meaningful choice might be scaling back the time you spend at the office and devoting those hours to volunteer work.

Here are the top four things that will help you do work that matters.

1. Produce work that creates a better world.

I think people are hungry to do meaningful, creative work. Work that contributes to producing a better world; one in which we can get more from less.

Ask yourself:

  • How does my work make other lives better?
  • Does my work give me time for family and community?
  • Do I  have creative control over my work?
  • What is my legacy?

2. Expand your knowledge base to pursue creative endeavors.

Keep learning and expanding your knowledge to pursue creative endeavors, to question the status-quo, and to make informed choices.

3. Focus on one thing at a time.

In an age of distraction there is a lot to be said for focus. So many folks try to do 5 things at once, rather than focusing on one task. For instance, if your working on an article focus on that task. Do you research ahead of time and then start writing.

4. Keep asking questions.

Professionals control the technical means but not the social goals of their creative work. The professional’s lack of control over the political content of his or her creative work is the hidden root of much career dissatisfaction … Professionals are licensed to think on the job, but they are obedient thinkers. ~Jeff Schmidt

Continue to ask yourself hard questions about the nature of work. By asking tough questions you might be “unprofessional,” but you won’t be an obedient thinker.

What would you add to the list?

Reprinted from the “social change through simple living” blog at rowdykittens.com

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