Tag Archives | change

We Have a Choice to Make

 

Life is full of transitions, both large and small. They happen whether we like it or not. Children grow up, we grow old, people, and circumstances come and go. We are buoyed and buffeted by life’s current and though it may not be the smoothest arrives, we hopefully learn something along the way.


We cannot stop time and I’m not sure if we would want to anyway. Each phase of life is special in its own way. We stretch, we grow, and sometimes we hurt. Nevertheless, the indisputable truth is that time keeps moving forward with or without our consent.

Our choice is either to dig our heels in stubbornly and stand in its wake or to jump on the roller coaster for whatever the journey brings.

I choose the ride!

How about you?

Comments { 0 }

5 Steps to Large Scale Change

I’m branching out a bit from my usual content to share an issue that grabbed my attention and I somehow felt compelled to share. Most of us have become aware of the “Kony Video,” and the surrounding controversy. The question is what if anything, do we do about it? Over the weekend my 19-year-old daughter, who is away at college, asked me what I thought about the situation. This stirred me to look and think. If this has gotten the attention of our youth, then it is deserving of ours.

My Response

“My take is both good and bad. Anything that brings awareness to atrocities in the world is a good thing and kudos to this group for getting our younger generation involved in concerns of our world. Apathy is our greatest threat and they are trying to change that. That’s very positive.

The bad… This issue is not as simple as presented. There’s a lot more to the story. The situation is evolving. What is the role of the government of Uganda? How are the donations being spent? Why does this deserve more attention than larger scale atrocities? Is military action the best solution? Should we be trying to fix the world when we have horrible problems at home? When is it ok to spend our money, use our influence, and risk our soldiers? Lots to consider…

So, what do I think? The best thing you and your friends can do is to become knowledgeable about all of the atrocities taking place throughout our world and what is currently being done about them? Also, get informed about our own problems, the number of homeless, hungry, the violence, damage we are doing to the earth and how we are spending our money. Remember that media is often propaganda; good or bad…Do your own research and form your own opinions.

I’m pleased and proud of you and your friends for paying attention to something larger than yourselves. It’s the only thing that will save our future.”

In case you haven’t been following the situation, you can watch the “Kony Video” on YouTube. The Huffington Post has some articles discussing the larger controversy, but there are many others out there.

As I told my daughter, I believe apathy is our greatest threat. We have the power to affect change, but how do we use that power effectively? Moreover, how can we teach our younger generation to do the same?

What We Can Do

1. Pay Attention – Be aware of what’s going on around the world and in our own back yard. Nothing can be done until we first get informed about the issues that plague us.

2. Choose What Speaks to You – What pulls at you? Where do you feel the most compelled to take action? We are most effective and have the most impact when we focus on things that illicit the most passionate repose.

3. Do Your Research – Gather information about all sides of an issue. What is the situation? What has occurred in the past? What is being done now? What are the proposed solutions? Pros and Cons.

4. Form Your Own Opinions – Nearly all forms of media present a slanted point of view. It’s nearly impossible to be completely objective and neutral, even for news outlets. Perceptions and beliefs do impact the way information is presented. That’s not necessarily a bad thing as long as we are aware of it. Use your research to form your own conclusions, instead of simply adopting the conclusions of others.

5. Take Action – There are many effective ways to take action and affect change.

Spread the word, shine a light on the issues, and share your concerns with others.

Give money and/or time to a cause.

Use your political power; vote or contact your politicians.

Utilize the power of the pocketbook; when money talks, people listen.

Food for Thought

What if career and financial success, health and fitness, beauty, happiness, balance, stable marriages, good parenting, or spiritual connection are not the purpose of life, but merely paths?

What if the purpose, our legacy, is in fact, to use an old cliché, “To make the world a better place for those who come after us?” What would we do differently?

Are we being naïve in thinking we can make a difference?

No, I don’t think so. We can’t fix the entire world’s problems overnight, but we can each have a small impact, which when combined add up to huge changes.

Your turn. Share your thoughts and comments.

 

Comments { 2 }

3 Simple Steps to Achieve a Higher Quality Life

It may seem fanciful, but it’s not. Studies have shown that people are more likely to be happier and find more personal and profession success as well as experience more life satisfaction, when they have a vision of what they want their future to look like. It’s simple logic really and the process is quite painless.

Make a Wish ListInclude both personal and professional wishes in every area of your life, tangible and intangible.

Some examples from my wish list:

I wish I could spend each day doing what I love.

I wish to touch the lives of those around me.

I wish for financial security so that I don’t have to worry about money.

I wish to be healthy in mind and body.

Now, make your own wish list. Maybe you want to express your creativity. Maybe you want your own business or a new car. Perhaps you want a loving relationship or better work-life balance. This list of wishes will help guide you toward what you truly want in life.

Describe Your Ideal DayAgain you may say it’s fanciful; I say it’s crucial to achieving your goals of happiness and success.

What would your ideal day look like?

Where would you be?

Whom would you be with?

What would you be doing?

What would you be feeling?

Your first inclination might be to think of a vacation or life of leisure, but though you might not believe it that would get old eventually. Instead, envision a normal day, the way you’d like it to be.

Think BackwardsIt sounds odd, but is actually necessary and practical.

What would have to happen for you to make these wishes and your ideal life a reality?

What habits, behaviors, and beliefs would you need to change?

What actions would you need to take?

What would you need to learn?

Ponder the disparity between where you are and where you want to go. It may look impossible, but it is doable, although you may discover along the way that the answers to these questions changes. I’ll leave that for a future post. Consider what small step you could take to bridge the gap and move forward towards the life you envision.

Share what’s on your wish list?

Comments { 0 }

The Best Place To Find Happiness

Why are so many of us so unhappy? Maybe we’re not unhappy per see, but we aren’t truly content with our lives and we certainly don’t feel real joy every day. An overwhelming majority of people struggle with this problem.

smile


The answer…We’re looking for happiness in the wrong places.

Happiness cannot be found in a nice car, fresh haircut, better relationship, new city, or even a different job. It also can’t be found in fun vacations, fancy houses, and large bank accounts. Success won’t guarantee it, neither will love.

It can’t be found in a thinner body or a sparkly piece of bling (though you might come close.) It’s not in books or on the internet. You certainly can’t get to it through Facebook, (but I like it anyway.)

Oh, it can exist in all of these places, but not if we’re seeking it. Surprisingly, it can also exist in heartbreak and loss, in failure and poverty.

Where can we find happiness then?

We can travel a long way and do many things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. It is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home. - Sharon Salzberg

Happiness is inside us. Only inside us and nowhere else. That doesn’t mean that you can’t have all of those nice things mentioned above. They might even make you feel better temporarily, but they won’t bring you happiness.

We’ve hear this before right? But, how do we find the happiness inside us? If it’s always been hiding inside us, but we haven’t managed to locate it, then we must be doing something wrong.

Yes, we are, because we don’t understand what happiness is. It is not fireworks and giddiness. It’s not smiling all of the time or loving everything that happens in life.

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.

- Agnes Repplier

It’s rather a matter of perception. It’s in how we view the world and our role in it. Abraham Lincoln had it right, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

If unhappiness springs from discontent, it stands to reason that happiness springs from contentment. The extent of which we feel content with lives determines our level of happiness. That doesn’t mean that we can’t strive for a better life or try to positive make changes. It is important to seek professional and personal growth, to achieve our goals and to find a better life balance.

What it does mean is that we can choose to be happy. We can decide to accept life the way it is, rather than always wishing for something different…I’ll be happy when… We can elect to have an attitude of happiness. It’s our attitude, what is stopping us from changing it?

We can be grateful for what life has brought us, both large and small. We can savor each day as a new opportunity to look for the happiness that exists inside of us.

As the Glenda the Good Witch reminds us, “You’ve always had the power…”

The question is… Will you use it?

Share how you find, express, or cultivate your happiness…

Enhanced by Zemanta
Comments { 2 }

How 1 Simple Strategy Can Change Your Life

Stairs

Image via Wikipedia

Trying to reach a goal, get organized, be successful, improve relationships or get healthy, but feeling frustrated? Our goals, projects, can appear so daunting, so unreachable. The end result seems so far away; we’re never going to get there.

This simple strategy can help anyone.

Go for the quick result, the small victory.

What does that mean exactly? A quick result is a doable action that gives you tangible results quickly. Picture a mini-goal, a small portion of a larger undertaking. It can be anything as long as it moves you toward your goals.

Some examples:

Your house is a mess – straighten and purge one closet, clean one small area or wash the windows so you can see a visible result.

Trying to get more organized – make a master list of everything you need to do, eliminate one or two piles, clear off your desk or the kitchen counter, go through old mail or clear out your email inbox.

Want to be more successful – contact one person who can help you with your project, complete one small portion, spruce up your resume, set up a LinkedIn profile.

Longing to write a book, but can’t get started – Forget about the finished manuscript; write one chapter or just create an outline.

Trying to get healthier or more fit – Don’t go on a severe diet or try to run a race out of the starting gate; plan your meals for the week so you can avoid take-out, sign up for an exercise class that interests you (and actually go,) concentrate on losing 5 pounds, or being able to run 2 miles, whatever is doable for you and that you can achieve in a short period of time.

Remember the saying. life is a marathon, not a sprint. That is also true of achieving goals and making significant changes in your life.

To give you a real life example that we can all understand; my mother struggled with her weight her entire life, fad diets, exercise attempts to no avail. One day she had a revelation; this life change could not be achieved overnight. Small steps were the answer. First step, join Weight Watchers and establish accountability. Second step, eat more vegetables, lose 5 pounds, again and again and again. Third step, walk around the block every day. This was a small victory for a 60+ woman who had never been physically active. Then walk a mile, then two, then three.

The process, small victory after small victory after small victory. 18 months later, a large victory, over 100 pounds lost, the elimination of nearly all medications, a new wardrobe and a clean bill of health.

Another example, a young woman longing to write a book. A wife, a mother, a career, too busy, no time. She decides to write an hour at a time while her children are at swimming lessons. One chapter at a time, week after week after week, small victories. The end result, The unbelievably successful Twilight Series. A string of bestselling books and movies that have grossed more than 2 billion dollars.

One small victory at a time… Imagine what you can do.

What project are you struggling to finish? What goal seems unreachable?

What small victory could you manage?

Enhanced by Zemanta
Comments { 0 }

Create a Life Plan in 30 Minutes or Less…and Why You Need to

Do you have a life plan? If not, it’s time to think about creating one. We are not talking about some 20 page research paper with charts and graphs and maps. Just a general snapshot of where you are right now in all the areas that matter and where you’d like to go in the future.

This should take no more than 30 minutes. This is your life we’re talking about…you can find 30 minutes. And if you can’t …we need to talk, you and I.

How would you rate your life on a scale of 1 – 10? – Are you satisfied with that rating? What would you be satisfied with?

Write a brief description of the current state of your life. – Health, relationships, work, finances, spiritual or emotional well-being, community, etc. Whatever is going on. Just briefly jot it down.

What makes you happy? – There must be some good things, some things that bring you joy and make you laugh.

What are the drains on your energy and happiness? – What people, situations or behaviors are your kryptonite? We all have these things (or someones) that suck the life out of us like vampires draining our life force.

What isn’t working in your life? - These are the obstacles to living a satisfied life of fulfillment…Do you need to lose weight, be more organized, find a different job, end or change a relationship, manage your stress better or maybe just learn to laugh again.

Now describe your ideal life. - I’m not talking about a commercial for the “Rich and Famous,” some Hollywood fairy tale. I’m talking about what kind of life would truly make you happy to get out of bed in the morning. What would you be doing? Who would you be with? How would you be feeling?

What do you need to do to get that life?  – What needs to happen for you to get from point A to point B? Again, not a detailed outline of actions for the next 20 years, just some general goals to work toward, a few habits to adopt or a change in attitude or surroundings to adopt.

Something to think about…Why? Why do you want whatever it is that you want? What do you really want to accomplish in this life? What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want to be remembered for?

Comments { 0 }

Tackle the time Wasters!

hourglass_cropped

Image by openDemocracy via Flickr

Simple Steps

Weekly challenge: Tackle the time wasters!

Identify 5 time wasters that eat up your time, your focus or your energy.

Then choose one item to reduce or eliminate. (I know you’re ambitious, but making one change at a time yields the highest rate of success. You can build on that later.)

Care to share? What are your time wasters and which are you tackling this week?

Comments { 0 }

10 Ways to Make Change Work for You

Change is not the enemy. In fact it can be the best friend you never knew you had.

From time to time it’s beneficial to shake things up and get out of a rut, even if you think that rut is working for you! You’d be surprised at what a measurable difference a small change in routine, environment or process can make. Change can be a valuable success and happiness tool if you learn to make it work for you instead of avoiding it at all costs.

Commit this week to making just one change in the way you live and work.

10 Change Suggestions to get you started:

  • Rearrange your furniture in your office or a room at home – Especially if you work from home (I recently moved my desk so that I was no longer facing the wall and immediately found I was happier and more productive.)
  • Change the colors that surround you – Colors have been scientifically proven to affect mood and creativity (you don’t have to paint your walls…new curtains, a throw pillow, flowering plant or an inexpensive wall hanging can work.)
  • Wear something different – Buy something completely different from your usual wardrobe, even a new tie or scarf will work or wear favorite clothing in a new combination.
  • Shift your normal routine – Do you always get groceries or go to the bank on the same day? Do you always check your email first? How about when you take breaks and lunch? Shake it up and see how it works (you can always go back.)
  • Try out a new commuting activity – If you normally talk on your mobile phone or listen to the news, how about listening to an audio book instead or try a silent commute (might be uncomfortable for some, but I find the silence to be great opportunity to mull over creative ideas.)
  • Expand your social circle – Eat lunch with someone different, invite a colleague or acquaintance for coffee, ask a neighbor to dinner ( you never know where you will find your next friend mentor or business contact.)
  • Swap activities – Do yoga at lunch instead of sitting in the lunch room, try Zumba instead of the treadmill, Pilates in place of yoga or biking instead of your usual morning run (altering your exercise routine not only keeps it more interesting, but also is more effective at improving your fitness and health.)
  • Eat a different meal – If you always have a bagel or muffin for breakfast, try having eggs or yogurt and fruit instead (the extra protein will increase you alertness and energy level.)
  • Examine one firmly entrenched process and see if you can tweak or overhaul it (well established processes and equipment that may have worked quite well at one time, may not be the most effective method now.)
  • How about changing your attitude or behavior – Gulp! This is the toughest, but by far the most effective change strategy (If you notice that you complain or criticize often, try remaining silent when the urge strikes.  Or if you’re always late, make it a priority to be on time for a week and see how it feels.)
Most importantly…Smile…It changes everything.

Question everything, move forward, enjoy the journey.

Comments { 0 }

Review: “The Art of Accomplishment” by Nicholas Townsend Smith

I was thrilled to be asked to review this book! I love reading…well…anything really, but I especially love reading something I can share with my readers that is 1. useful and 2. affordable. 

Art of Accomplishment“The Art of Accomplishment” by Nicholas Townsend Smith is both. From the book:

I know if you apply my methods, your life will change, as it has for me and so many others. If you follow these methods, you will become one of those people who reaches his or her goals.

Let me ask you this: what do you think it means to accomplish?

I”ll tell you what I think it means. If I could give you one take away from this book and nothing else, it would be this: to accomplish something is simply to complete it. If you start finishing what you start, amazing things happen.

However, I will warn you that accomplishing anything requires effort. If you picked up this book thinking it would be a get-successful-easy methodology, you picked up the wrong book.

Put it down before you actually EARN something!

Nicholas delivers his insightful information with analogies we can relate to and useful strategies we can all apply.

Read an excerpt from one of my favorite chapters:

REDEFINE PERFECTION

How many times have you thought to yourself that if you did not do something perfectly the first time, then you wouldn’t do it? If you looked like some kind of an idiot, you wouldn’t even try?

The word perfect originated from the Latin word perficere; per meaning ‘complete’ and facere meaning ‘to do’.

To do something perfectly never meant to do things flawlessly or without defect; we redefined it to mean that. The original meaning of the word perfect was to do something and to finish it.

As you now know from the Certainty Cycle it is really hard to know if something does or does not work if you never finish it. It is in finishing things that we discover the results. If you finish what you start, then you are performing perfectly even when the results are not flawless. Perfection is what allows you to make adjustments and continue on to flawlessness.

As a little bonus, I want to share with you the process of perfection. This is a five step process and will help you accomplish every goal you set:

  • 1- Intention – What is it you are stretching toward? What is the goal you would like to reach? Establish your target and determine the high probability path for reaching it.
  • 2- Trigger – Establish a trigger that gets the process started. You could have an intricate goal and system put together, much like a Rube Goldberg machine, but nothing to trigger the next action, so it really doesn‟t matter. The trigger is the item or action that gets you moving toward your goal.
  • 3- Perform – Now that you have the goal, the system, and the trigger, the next step is to do your system; to act.
  • 4- Complete – Finish what you start. Perform to completion because this is the only way you will know if your system works or not.
  • 5- Adjust – Make adjustments to your system and actions until you are getting the results you want.

The process of perfection is a simple tool that will assist you in reaching your goals every time. Do you want to perform perfectly? Do what you say you will do and finish it! That my friend, is perfection.

 

Nicholas Townsend Smith is quickly becoming the most powerful performance trainer in America. His transformational style and commitment to individuals has generated lasting change in business owners, organizational leaders, executives, employees and individuals across America and into Canada. His clients’ results have been astonishing; from establishing high paying contracts to increasing health, each person has used concepts from Nick’s seminars, webinars, teleseminars and group and individual coaching to accomplish his or her desires. More information on Nick and his work can be found at http://clearpathtraining.com.

 

 

 

Comments { 0 }

Change is Necessary to Move Forward

Decide

Image by mattwi1s0n via Flickr

 

“Growth is the only evidence of life.”  ~John Henry Newman

We are often paralyzed by this weird inability to make changes even when we know that we must in order to move forward.

Why is that?

I think it is really because we have this innate fear of making a wrong decision. So to avoid that terrifying (in our minds) possibility we avoid making any decision at all. This usually results in life (or other people) taking the decision out of our hands, which is what we were secretly hoping for anyway.

That way we don’t have to take responsibility for the consequences of our non-decisions. See, it was somebody else’s fault.

But that behavior keeps us stuck in a holding pattern, not unlike a car on a one-way street sitting at an intersection.

You can’t turn around and go back.

You have to choose which way to go. Right or left. The road less travelled or the road most travelled. Just choose.

If you don’t, you will sit idling until you run out of gas. Not a happy prospect.

The moral of the story is decide…something…anything. If it doesn’t work out, you can choose something different next time. Most often it’s not a matter of life or death. That’s just a story we tell ourselves.

BE BRAVE!  BE BOLD! DECIDE! MAKE A CHANGE!

Comments { 0 }