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Change or Die

Change is constant; you can either embrace it and move forward or resist it and get run over.

Do you fear change? A little uncertain?

The usual conversation in our head goes something like this:

“Well maybe it would be good, but what if it doesn’t work out. Things aren’t going that well, but at least I know what to expect. I’ve been doing, thinking, and acting this way for so long, I don’t know how to be different. People won’t like me if I change. It’s not worth the hassle. I’m not sure I can change anyway.”

We need to recognize that’s only our fear talking. We have been conditioned from birth to conform. We are creatures of habit. We live what we learn. We are mistrustful of new ideas. New ways of doing things seem uncomfortable.

Question that thinking.

It’s a knee jerk response. Look at the broader reality of history. The only way we grow both as individuals and as a society is through change. All of our pioneering inventions that improved our lives, our innovative solutions that solved major world problems, involved massive change. Changes in our technology, changes in our practices, and most of all changes in our mindset.

We would have no iPad, no apps; we might not even have the internet. Horror! 

We’d still be sending messages via telegraph instead mobile phones that allow us to call and text from almost anywhere instantaneously.

We’d still have to get up to turn the channel on the television, instead of using a remote that can operate all of our electronics in one handy little device (OK, maybe that wouldn’t be so bad.) Worse yet, we might not even have televisions.

We’d still be using leeches instead of antibiotics. And dying from common viruses with no childhood immunizations.

We’d still be using iceboxes, waiting weeks for our mail to be delivered via Pony, pumping our water at the well. I won’t even mention going out back in the middle of the night. (OK, I mentioned it.) Shutter the thought!

Good grief, we might still think the world was flat and never get to visit Hawaii or Tahiti or Bali (or wherever we’d like to go.)

You get the idea. We cannot grow, advance, improve our lives, and change the world or our individual circumstances, without being willing to change. We would be confined to the life that we were born into, repeating the same behaviors over and over again, no hope for advancement, and a better life.

What do we have to fear? Success. Happiness. New friends and colleagues. Expanding our horizons. Learning new skills.

Those things don’t sound so bad, do they?

What do we have to lose? The comfort of routine. The familiar. The approval of those around us who are fearful of change. Pride if we make a mistake.

Those things don’t actually serve us, do they? Well maybe the pride, but usually it’s misplaced anyway…

Change. Be bold. Be daring. Be hopeful. Be creative. Be alive.

The ball is in your court.

It’s your turn. What do you think?

 

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Get Involved in Your Community

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Did getting more involved in your community make your list of goals or resolutions?

Here’s why it should.

Any form of community involvement can be a wonderful thing in itself. The satisfaction you experience by contributing to your community and the people around you is priceless and many times is the most positive thing you do in your day. Although community involvement by its very nature is altruistic, you will often find that you receive more than you give.

But beyond the personal rewards, being active in your community also provides a tremendous opportunity to network with people who live in your area and the professional connections can help you advance your career or bring in more business. It can also present a fantastic opportunity to make new friends and build your personal support network.

Start participating in neighborhood or community meetings, take part in activities relating to your kids’ school or join a volunteer group or cause that interests you. The choices are endless. Find something that appeals to you and fits into your schedule. Don’t view this as another demand on your time, but as a possibility to enhance your career and your life.

Plus you’ll be setting a great example for your children.

I have over the years been a part of the school PTO and joined a local literacy tutoring group. I found both to be enjoyable, rewarding and very beneficial in adding to my pool of connections.

What type of community involvement have you done or are you planning to di in the future?

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Explore, Expand, Evolve – What Does it Mean? Why You Should Care

To my way of thinking there are three aspects or necessary components to growing in life, work, fulfillment, success, balance, relationships, anything really.

Explore, Expand, Evolve

This is the whole philosophy of my business, my writing and my coaching. It’s also how I try to live my life.

You really need all three to be your most effective, to live your best life, to have your most successful career. They work together, building on one another and circling back and forth to form an intricate web which is the foundation for all growth, in business and in life.

But what do these words mean? How do they apply to you? To your business? To your home-life?

Here’s the boiled-down Cliff Notes version of my understanding and my practice.

Explore = Assess

  • Observe the situation, the problem, the reality, the goal
  • Learn more about options, choices, motivations, thought and behavior patterns
  • Generate ideas, contemplate possible solutions
  • Who am I? As a person, as a professional?
  • What am I doing? Or not doing?
  • What do I want to accomplish?
  • What is missing? Or what is not working?

Expand = Move forward

  • Be more productive
  • Formulate a plan
  • Take action
  • What do I need to do to get from A to B, or A to F?
  • Where can I get help?
  • How can I best use my time?

Evolve = Change

  • What do I need to change?
  • What isn’t working?
  • Where am I stuck?
  • Do I need to shift my focus?
  • Revise plans and strategies
  • Modify behaviors
  • Break patterns
  • New habits
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Change is Necessary to Move Forward

Decide

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“Growth is the only evidence of life.”  ~John Henry Newman

We are often paralyzed by this weird inability to make changes even when we know that we must in order to move forward.

Why is that?

I think it is really because we have this innate fear of making a wrong decision. So to avoid that terrifying (in our minds) possibility we avoid making any decision at all. This usually results in life (or other people) taking the decision out of our hands, which is what we were secretly hoping for anyway.

That way we don’t have to take responsibility for the consequences of our non-decisions. See, it was somebody else’s fault.

But that behavior keeps us stuck in a holding pattern, not unlike a car on a one-way street sitting at an intersection.

You can’t turn around and go back.

You have to choose which way to go. Right or left. The road less travelled or the road most travelled. Just choose.

If you don’t, you will sit idling until you run out of gas. Not a happy prospect.

The moral of the story is decide…something…anything. If it doesn’t work out, you can choose something different next time. Most often it’s not a matter of life or death. That’s just a story we tell ourselves.

BE BRAVE!  BE BOLD! DECIDE! MAKE A CHANGE!

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Have You Tried Scheduled Replies

Action challenge – Try checking email less often.

If you find your productive periods of work ever shrinking because of email, phone, and other interruptions, it’s time to adopt a policy of scheduled replies. Some productivity masters recommend that you check email, VM, etc. only once or twice per day and batch your responses. You will find that often, many questions have already been answered and your participation really wasn’t required!

In an effort to practice what I preach, I am striving for twice per day. I have IM and text messaging for urgent matters, so I really am still reachable. Unfortunately, I find myself addicted to that Send/Receive button and suffer from the “disease of curiosity” whenever I get a voicemail, so I haven’t mastered this strategy yet. Still a work in progress….this week I am attempting to check only once per hour so that I can focus on my current task at hand.  One suggestion if you decide to adopt this routine, is to set up a VM or email auto-reply letting people know your new policy for responding to messages.

You decide what works for you! Let me know how it goes…

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Don’t Give Up on Your Dreams

If we have not achieved our early dreams, we must either find new ones or see what we can salvage from the old. If we have accomplished what we set out to do in our youth, we need not weep like Alexander the Great that we have no more worlds to conquer. There is clearly much left to be done, and whatever else we are going to do, we had better get on with it. – Rosalynn Carter

Take a look at your dreams and accomplishments. Do you need to revise and adjust based on where you are in life and the experiences you’ve had? This doesn’t mean give up, just regroup. And as Rosalynn so clearly says, “we had better get on with it.”

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Make an Appointment with Yourself

Weekly challenge:

Make an appointment with yourself for distraction-free time. Take out your daily or weekly calendar and block out periods of time each day when you close the door, silence the phone and turn off the email notifications. You need to have solid chunks of time to be able to focus on projects, catch up on overdue tasks, organize your space or contemplate and plan the future. You can literally accomplish twice as much if you aren’t forced to constantly shift your focus.

Bonus: The best ideas and inspiration occur when you have quiet time to yourself!

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Try a Daily Wrap Up

Weekly challenge:

At the end of each workday this week, whatever time that is,  take 5 – 10 minutes to go through a daily wrap-up routine.

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What worked?
  • Where was your focus and what did you get done?
  • Where did you get distracted and what can you do differently tomorrow?

Finally, review the next day’s calendar, ongoing project statuses and tasks that are either due tomorrow or overdue. Set your top three priorities for the next day (three works for me; any more than that and my focus is scattered.) Now you already have a head start on the next day. Try it and see if you don’t find you are much calmer each morning.

This is one part of my 18 minute daily focus and planning routine. For a refresher read 18 Minutes to Managing Your Day.

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Information Diet Challenge

Weekly challenege:

The productivity challenge for this week is to trim your information feeds; Twitter feeds, RSS feeds, daily blogs, news feeds, etc. If you’re like me, then you can all too easily get sucked into the information vortex by either incessant curiosity or the voracious need to know feeling that fears you might miss something important!

You can only process a certain amount of information and then your brain goes on overload and your retention rate is dismal. You will be much more informed and decrease your time wasted in the “black hole” of information if you prune your information sources with a discerning eye.

Over the next week, go through your daily information routine as you normally would, but each time you are checking the news, reading your RSS feeds, daily blogs or scrolling your Twitter feed ask yourself the following question:

Does this information add some kind of value to my life?

  • Does it add to my knowledge base and is that knowledge useful to me?
  • Does it teach or improve a useful talent or skill? (I.e. productivity!)
  • Does it make me laugh or uplift my spirits in some way?

If the information source does not meet one of these criteria, then it is very simply not worth your time. Now, for the hardest part; discard the duplicates. Choose the two or three best sources in each area; news, industry reviews, social media, technology, finance, personal development or whatever your particular areas of interest might be. Start trimming!

My task will be to trim the Twitter feeds I am following to a manageable level and cut my RSS feeds by 50%. I will keep you posted on my progress.

Please share your goals for this week’s challenge and let us know how you are doing

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Tackle One Thing at a Time

Weekly challenge: Tackle a nagging task.

Crossing things off a to-do list is energizing and rewarding. Those loose ends rolling around in the back of our heads, just add to the feelings overwhelm and anxiety. Pick something (just one thing – don’t go crazy,) that has been on your list or in your head for a while and just get it done – you will feel such relief. Clear your desk, get rid of one pile of papers, catalogs or magazines, clean out that closet or make that phone call you have been dreading.

Make it a habit each day to make an effort to do one small “niggler.” Eventually those small actions will add up to a huge jump in productivity and a whole lot less stress.

I am taking my own advice and I will be at the local car wash, washing and vacuuming out my vehicle this week. What are you going to tackle? Post so we can cheer you on and share in your success!

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