The answer…We’re looking for happiness in the wrong places.
Happiness cannot be found in a nice car, fresh haircut, better relationship, new city, or even a different job. It also can’t be found in fun vacations, fancy houses, and large bank accounts. Success won’t guarantee it, neither will love.
It can’t be found in a thinner body or a sparkly piece of bling (though you might come close.) It’s not in books or on the internet. You certainly can’t get to it through Facebook, (but I like it anyway.)
Oh, it can exist in all of these places, but not if we’re seeking it. Surprisingly, it can also exist in heartbreak and loss, in failure and poverty.
Where can we find happiness then?
We can travel a long way and do many things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. It is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home. - Sharon Salzberg
Happiness is inside us. Only inside us and nowhere else. That doesn’t mean that you can’t have all of those nice things mentioned above. They might even make you feel better temporarily, but they won’t bring you happiness.
We’ve hear this before right? But, how do we find the happiness inside us? If it’s always been hiding inside us, but we haven’t managed to locate it, then we must be doing something wrong.
Yes, we are, because we don’t understand what happiness is. It is not fireworks and giddiness. It’s not smiling all of the time or loving everything that happens in life.
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
It’s rather a matter of perception. It’s in how we view the world and our role in it. Abraham Lincoln had it right, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
If unhappiness springs from discontent, it stands to reason that happiness springs from contentment. The extent of which we feel content with lives determines our level of happiness. That doesn’t mean that we can’t strive for a better life or try to positive make changes. It is important to seek professional and personal growth, to achieve our goals and to find a better life balance.
What it does mean is that we can choose to be happy. We can decide to accept life the way it is, rather than always wishing for something different…I’ll be happy when… We can elect to have an attitude of happiness. It’s our attitude, what is stopping us from changing it?
We can be grateful for what life has brought us, both large and small. We can savor each day as a new opportunity to look for the happiness that exists inside of us.
As the Glenda the Good Witch reminds us, “You’ve always had the power…”
The question is… Will you use it?
Share how you find, express, or cultivate your happiness…