Just Say No…To Resolutions!

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I am fully aware that I may be bucking the system in coming out against making New Year’s resolutions, but frankly studies have shown consistently that people have very little success at keeping their resolutions anyway. So why put ourselves through the stress and hassle of vowing to do things that we’re not going to follow thru on…just because our society tells us it’s the thing to do.

I invite you to join me in my boycott of resolutions…

A few things I will not be resolving to do this year:

Give up Sugar! – I’m already a vegetarian with a dairy allergy…all I have left is flour and sugar. Besides, cinnamon rolls make me happy…

Nix the Caffeine – I like coffee. I like tea. Period. So sue me. I indulge moderately and I’m not giving any of it up…

Exercise every day – I like walking, almost(sort of) enjoy running, can tolerate strength training, and am learning to embrace yoga…but I don’t always want to do it every day…and I refuse to feel guilty about that. “Never miss two days in row” is a good rule of thumb. 4-5 days a week keeps me healthy without being obsessive or guilt ridden. That’s good enough for me.

Diet – I refuse to watch and weigh every morsel, just because society has decreed that losing weight must be everyone’s resolution list…I’m not overweight, I’m not stick thin…Though I may weigh more than I did 20 years ago or 10 years ago, I’m healthy…and that’s all that matters.

Spend less – I am already pretty frugal by most standards…I do my own nails, dye my own hair and only own two purses and about ten pairs of shoes. There is nothing wrong with the occasional indulgence…as long as you have the money. I make a concerted effort to donate to charitable causes that are important to me within the constraints of my modest income, but I would always like to do more.

Work on relationships – Or whatever the catch-phrase is this year that tells us we are selfish ogres when it comes to other people. Let me be clear, I’m not saying that strong, deep connections are not desirable…I just don’t think we need to flog ourselves over it, unless there’s a real issue. I try to be a good wife and not screw up my children too badly. My friends are just as busy as I am, but they know I’m here if they need me. I’m not always the most attentive daughter or sister, but I can always be counted on…Good relationships should come from the heart…not a goal list. (Feel free to tweet that.)

*Important note – I have never smoked and I rarely drink more than an occasional glass of wine…so, they’re not even on the radar…

My resolve not to resolve doesn’t mean that I won’t try to be a better person – that’s always the intention. Nor does it mean that I won’t take wise and necessary action to move my life forward and attempt to be kind to the people and the world around me. It just means that I don’t need to make resolutions to do it…

Here’s to a calmer, less stressful and more enjoyable year…without all of the accompanying guilt. 

Your take…Are you still on the resolution bandwagon?

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2 Responses to Just Say No…To Resolutions!

  1. David Kemper January 2, 2013 at 9:43 am #

    I really like what you wrote “good relationships come from the heart, not a goal list.” I do like goals – as indicators, not a “do or die” thing. My resolution is just to be more mindful and focus on doing “the next right thing.” I’ll look at sleep, exercise, eating, etc. as *indicators* of how I’m doing – when I might need a nudge to get back to my center. And I’ll also look at feelings – especially joy – to confirm when I am on the right path.

    God loves me no matter what. I agree with you that New Year’s resolutions in general set me up with a false measure of my value/worth. True change and growth is “an inside job.”

    Thanks for your presence and spirit, Royale.

    David

    • Royale Scuderi January 2, 2013 at 9:50 am #

      I would agree with you about the “indicators.” And I do also set an intention and try to cultivate good habits that support my personal growth. For example, right now my priority is sleep. I can’t function well in any area without sleep. So, instead of setting a resolution to get a certain amount of sleep or a strict bedtime, etc. I just have an intention in my mind that my body needs sleep and that I need to go to bed when I’m sleepy…even if there are things that still need to be done.

      Thanks for chiming in!

      Royale

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