I’m all about doing things the easy way. I used to be all about the hard way – though I didn’t think of it that way – but I’m reforming. Life’s too short.
So back to the calm thing. “Stay calm.” “Calm down.” and the ever-present “Keep calm.” The key to lowering stress is to cultivate calm we’re told – meditate, yoga, hobbies, fun…
But sometimes it just seems like one more thing on the to-do list. Maybe it’s just me, but some days I just don’t have the energy…
So I’ve decided when I need a dose of calm, I’m going to try “observing calm.”
I like to sit on the deck and watch the water ripple in the pool. I never swim in the pool, ever. (the kids do) But still something about the water is calming. So instead of berating myself for not “doing” swimming (the hard way,) I’m going to just be content to sit and observe the calming effect of the water (the easy way.)
I’ve started to notice that I find my calm by “watching” the calm around me in other ways too. First, you have to look for it, but when you start noticing it, it’s everywhere.
Once I got started, it was kind of like a game. Let’s see where I can find it…
I notice the people walking their dogs and the kids playing hop scotch as I’m driving by (instead of getting caught up in what I have to do and where I have to go.)
I notice the clouds floating by and the birds outside the office window.
I notice the elderly man who is very patiently waiting in the store line.
I notice my dogs snoozing in the slice of sun without a care.
As I’ve begun to look for, “watch” for, these instances of calm, I see them all around me…though I never paid much attention to them before.
The terrific thing about this practice is that it doesn’t take any extra time out of my schedule and I don’t actually have to “do” anything, but somehow the calm rubs off on me anyway.
It’s an easy win…and who doesn’t love that.
So, while I’m not advocating giving up on meditation or yoga or journaling or whatever activities you find calming, what I am saying is that there are other ways to get your dose of calm – or an extra dose – when you need it.
As I’m working on reforming…I’m trying out a new philosophy…
Do whatever works for you (not necessarily the prescribed solution.)
And why not do it the easy way if you can.
I challenge you today to give it a try and share what calm you’re “watching.”