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Real Age Wisdom You Need To Remember

realageSome timeless wisdom you need to remember from RealAge.com.

To Feel Content, Just Take a Stand

Has something in the news gotten your ire up? Taking a stand on it could boost your quality of life.

New research shows that not just believing in a cause, but actively supporting it, tends to translate into a happier, more contented life.

Power Beyond the Pen

In a series of studies, researchers surveyed over 1,000 adults to find out if they considered themselves to be activists for any particular issue, from supporting antiwar politics to championing human rights. And the researchers found that the stronger a person’s activism, the better that person felt — as long as his or her activities weren’t extreme. Specifically, the highly engaged activists reported experiencing more positive emotions, feeling more satisfied with their lives, and feeling more connected to others. (Here’s another get-happy strategy that will help you feel more satisfied every day.)

The Good in Do-Gooding

Investing yourself in issues that are important to you helps strengthen your sense of self and fosters personal feelings of purpose — both of which can help get you through tough or stressful times. So whether you write letters to Congress or start a nonprofit, take an active stand on the things you believe in. And here are just a few more ways that doing good for others does your own life some major good:

It can keep your mind from slowing down.

It can boost longevity.

RealAge Benefit:

Taking care of your emotional health and well-being can make your RealAge up to 16 years younger.

I don’t know about you…but I’m all for feeling younger!

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4 Things You Need To Know About Your Core Values

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“Core Values” is a term that’s thrown around a lot, especially in a business setting, but we have personal core values as well. It sounds more intimidating than it is. We all have them, whether we know it or not.

Our personal core values are our personal belief system, the way we filter our world, information, experiences, feelings, thoughts, etc. The way we walk, talk, believe and act, everything that happens in our lives.

Personal core values are developed mostly through life experiences and often other people install them in us knowingly or unknowingly – through either teaching, example or our rejection of them.

My personal core values are the filter of who I am.

Honesty, integrity, family, work ethic, money, health, fun, etc. Whatever they may be…every decision is guided by them. Unfortunately…or maybe fortunately…depending on your viewpoint…this is a major cause of conflict with other people who don’t share our values. It just is. Not bad, or good, just is.

Mini-Mission: 4 Things You Need To Know About Your Core Values

What are they? A Google search can help you identify and label…

How do you actively live them? Or do you actively ignore them?

Are your values congruent? Conflicting values make it impossible to thrive and grow.

Are they always open to change? We grow and change as we gather more life experience and so may our core values.

Something to think about

Your core values are who you are right now, not who you want to be. (Feel free to tweet that :) People tend to make lists of values, traits of the person they want to be…but if you aren’t actively living by them in the here and now, then they aren’t actually your values…now are they?

That thought was quite an eye opener for me…You mean

Your mission this week…Think about your personal core values…They are what drives your life, so they’re worth a bit of consideration. Consider the four questions above to help you get a better understanding.

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Mini-Mission: Anatomy of Change

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It’s pretty simple. Change starts with an experience. Joy or pain, success or failure, happiness or frustration. Something works or it doesn’t.

If something is working, makes us happy, feels right…we keep doing it (unless we’re into self-sabotage, but that’s a whole other post.)

If something isn’t working, doesn’t make us happy, feels wrong…we change it.

Simple. Right?

It might be a slight tweak; it might be a complete overhaul.

The alternative is hopeless resignation, chronic frustration or stagnation.

What really bugs you, frustrates you, makes you mad at yourself? What’s been bothering you for a really long time?

A big thing; a little thing.

 

Your mini-mission: What needs to change in your life? 

 

The bigger mission: I have two words for you…Change it…

 

How do you view change? What stops you from making changes? What needs to change? Or what has helped you make changes?

Leave a comment or share on our Facebook page!

Just joining us… Find all of the Mini-Missions here…


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What Do We Do When The Unthinkable Happens?

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Talk about it…Don’t talk about it. The question weighed heavily on my mind.

Clearly, I decided it is just too important not to address. Though modern events are not the thrust of my writing, the world we live in shapes the way we live our lives and the way we live our lives shapes that world in return.

What do we do when the unthinkable happens?

Do we stare in awe glued to our television screens?

Do we enact new laws geared at prevention by legislation?

Do we look for someone to blame and point the finger?

Do we brush it off as a freak event?

Do we shake our fist and lament the terrible world we live in?

 

See, I don’t think any of those things helps, or at least they don’t get to the true heart of the problem.

It starts with looking inside ourselves and asking what can I do, instead of what can “they” do.

 

I can sit for a moment and absorb the pain of broken lives and broken hearts.

I can lend compassion and reach out with a helping hand.

I can hug those I hold dear and steep myself in a river of gratitude for the people in my life.

I can consider the broken world in which I live and my contribution and role in molding and shaping that world.

What can I do about the culture of violence in my world?

How can I help the troubled, unstable people among us so they don’t channel their pain into hurting others?

What can I teach my children so that they may begin to repair the broken world they are inheriting?

How do I make sense of the senseless? Understand the unthinkable? Prevent the the unimaginable?

How do I answer the question “Why?” when I find the answer so reprehensible? The answer is I don’t know. I simply don’t know. And that’s really no answer at all.

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Why is Incompetence So Annoying?

I don’t know about you, but I find incompetence on any level, in any situation vexing, from slightly annoying to downright offensive. Clearly, when I think rationally about this, someone else’s incompetence really has nothing to do with me, but as it often impacts the quality and outcome of my experience, it ticks me off. (Note: Though I’m striving fervently towards enlightenment…I am far from the state of calm acceptance.)

Have we slid so far into our tolerance for mediocrity that we no longer balk at inadequate?

From surly customer service reps to wait staff who have no people skills, you wonder why these people chose jobs where they have to talk to people. It boggles the mind.

We have so many wonderful teachers out there; why do we tolerate lousy ones?

Why would you keep a manager that is so smarmy, no one wants to work for him?

Even stupid commercials annoy me… Who the heck is writing these things? And don’t they have any “real” people to test them?

And speaking of writing…as a writer, sub-standard writing in any form really tweaks a nerve. If you can’t spell or don’t know the difference between there and their, you shouldn’t be writing… and certainly no website or magazine should be publishing your drivel. Don’t even get me started on some of the crap I see on the bookstore shelves… I don’t care how big your platform is, if you can’t string a proper sentence together and offer coherent information, then you don’t deserve a book jacket.

I find I’m feeling a bit better now that I have spewed the lava of my frustration all over my readers. Glad you’re out there and tolerate a tad of venting now and then.

The silver lining here is that among the sea of the inept, the stellar shine brightly. I now make a matter of principal to praise those who are exceptional at what they do. And bring it to the attention of those in a position to reward that excellence whenever possible.

Excellence should be the norm, not the exception.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you find incompetence frustrating or do you take it in stride?

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