It happens to all of us I think… You think you’re doing everything right, then life slaps you down with very rude, “Ha! And you thought you were in the driver’s seat…Wrong!” It happens. It sucks. But it happens.
You suddenly find yourself on this shaky ground of “What the heck happened?” What do you do?
Well, that’s both personal and circumstance driven. Your “what to do” may be different than mine. And it’s most definitely different if you’ve lost your job than if you’ve lost a loved one, when you’re going through a divorce or dealing with a health crisis, and so on.
Retreat. Rethink. Regroup. Reframe. Revise. Renew. Revive. Start over.
I share this as sort of a roundabout way of shining a light on a dilemma we all face while explaining my rather sparse and sporadic posting and social media presence over the last month or two. Yes, happened to me too.
Long story short:
A very healthy, rarely sick, energetic “doer,” (that’s me,) finds she has disappeared and in her place is a very sick, barely functional human with some strange unexplained affliction. This is the point in life’s smack down when we finally realize, that yes, this is actually happening to us.
Fast forward a few (actually more than a few) months of tests, research, meds, medicinal herbs and various supplements and there seems to be some measure of improvement, but not truly getting better, certainly not back to fully functional.
So, doctor’s orders: Rest, rest, rest, no work, no exercise, no stress…
My response: Are you kidding me? I don’t think I know how to do that!
This was followed by much complaining, rationalizing, bargaining, resisting… The usual response when we find ourselves in circumstances we desperately don’t want to be in…
After the dirt settles we realize that we only have two choices:
Bite the bullet and do whatever needs to be done no matter how difficult or uncomfortable it is…
Or drift along in victim mode.
No choice really.
So…What do I do?
I chose Retreat, Rethink, and Renew.
Go to bed early, take naps, yoga, a bit of walking, meditate, disconnect as much as possible, radically eliminate and minimize, let many things slide, basically stop working (hence the sporadic blog posts,) and ask for help.
Is it hard? Incredibly so.
Is it working? Slowly, but yes.
What comes next? I have absolutely no idea.
We’ve all heard this before…Change or die.
Pretty much sums it up. Sometimes literally. Sometimes figuratively.
How about you…When life smacks you down, what do you do?